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Ana

The Power and Peril of Praise

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Ana

An article about how the way you praise your kids, and how you were praised as a kid, effects you:

Here

I found this article amazingly accurate. Thomas IS me in elementary school, but with a better social life. It was so confusing and frustrating for the teachers to give me the sixth-grade extracurricular reading list when I was in third grade, but to almost fail math. It took me a long time to realize that yes, I was smarter at some things, but that I had to work at things too. What do you think?

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Neil1

Pop that ego!

:p

Nice article, though. Very revealing.

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Uncle Du

Wow, that is really neat. It really stops to make me think about things. Obviously my parents always told me I was smart, but I just generally never put forth as much effort as I could when I was in school. It just didn't seem worth my time, but I would still cut low three's for a GPA. Which is good considering I never did homework.

But I think they're right. I remember when I got complimented on a good job, and the effort that I put forth, it motivated me to perform better next time. If someone said something about how smart I was, it didn't really get to me. Same thing now, I know I'm somewhat what intelligent (:p ), so I don't need to hear it from other people. Recognize me for the good work I do.

Good article Ana.

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TheUnknown

Actually, it reminds me more of a friend of mine than me. He is very smart, was the salutatorian of our high school graduation class, and has like a 3.8 GPA in college. But he chickened out of most AP classes in high school and has told me he doesn't think he's that smart.

I do do relate to the article in a big way, though. I'm afraid of failure and trying unfamiliar things. I have poor study skills and a poor work ethic, both of which mostly stem from never actually having to study or work hard. The process for me was a little delayed. It wasn't middle school or even high school when I really started to doubt myself or started to have problems. It was college. I'm not doing poorly; I have a 3.5 GPA, but almost every semester, something has come up that has thrown me off and costed me at least one letter grade. But deep down inside, I know to some extent that I'm making excuses and could have made up considerable ground with a better work ethic.

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GI_Admiral

If you don't try you won't fail...

If you think you're smart, what's the worst feeling? Failure. You say "Oh man, I'm smart, I should know this...I',m [insert a bunch of awards GPAs etc]." So you feel like you should be able to succeed but you don't want to fail (which many people will on their first try of many things).

Success in activity A won't matter cause you have B C D etc, but failure in A sticks with you

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